My name is Christina Cole, some of you knew me as Christina Boyd, and I’m writing this blog as a birthday present to myself. That’s right, I turn 35 today and as of tomorrow I am that much closer to turning 40. Time sure does fly when you’re living in chaos. I am a stay at home mom and I live in the O.C. with my patient husband Jers, my tween 12 year old Cheek, my energetic 4 year old Deet, and the newest addition, 7 week old Beeb. Yes, they are all the spawn of me and Jers, we thought we should torture ourselves by spreading out our kids over a decade or so. We share our backyard with three golden retrievers, Mylie (mama dog), Ollie (daddy dog), and Goldie (baby dog). We are a one income family with one reliable car. We are quite the anomaly in Orange County. Needless to say, we have to get very creative with our budget and our transportation. It can be pretty stressful at times and I cling to the love of my family, my faith, my friendships, and my timeouts.
Timeouts are a routine part of my day. Most of the time they are inflicted on my children as a consequence, although they may view them as a retreat from their crazed mother. Then there are my mommy timeouts. These are imperative to me and my sanity. They range from “in house” timeouts like getting lost in a book, taking a bath, or even cleaning (it’s amazing how much noise a vacuum cleaner will drown out!) to the less common “escape” timeouts like shopping trips or the coveted girl’s night. My timeouts are free of children, although that gets tricky in the house. A relaxing bath that is interrupted by the wayward child usually ends badly…for the child. Don’t misunderstand me. I love my children. The kind of love that makes you feel like your heart will explode from your body it’s so full. But I love me too, and a happy mommy makes for a happy family. Every mommy should get a timeout once a day, even if it’s for 5 minutes. It’s a time to collect your thoughts, release your stress, and take a few deep breaths. Lock yourself in the bathroom if you must. The kids will be fine. That’s what smoke alarms are for.
This blog is a gift to myself, a new timeout if you will, and hopefully a gift to you.